After enduring 2 weeks in CT and Mass, I am certain of who I am now. Apparently I didn’t get the “it’s every person for yourself and tough do do that you live 2000 miles away” memo. I never thought in a million years greed would be the one thing that entered my family’s life.
I went home to attend a memorial for my Mom and was astounded at how greed and entitlement reared its ugly head. My sister and brother in law basically cleaned out my Mom’s townhome, leaving my dad with his clothes, the books in a huge mess and a few pictures on the wall. Also, 2 sets of old dishes. Everything else was cleaned out and by cleaned I mean taken to my sister’s house. I was very angry at first, as I know my mom kept some old jewelry, having 2 sets of wedding rings herself, a full canister of JFK half dollars from the 1960-70’s, photographs, a few antique family pieces around the house and the green metal box, which contains all of their personal information like SSN cards, the wills, mortgage, etc. ALL GONE!!!
I was so angry. Who goes in and cleans out the good stuff and leaves my dad in a state of chaos with the rest? Who are these people? Were we not raised in the same household? Same values? Same expectations? And the kicker was I was told that…wait for it…since I have not been around, I don’t get the check marks in the boxes for helping out, so I guess there is some system or record keeping of who did what, which the sum equals one part when the division comes. Have I lost y’all?
I was beyond livid for a few days but I didn’t like how it made me feel. It was just stuff. I decided to let the anger go and let karma and life deal with it. I realized I am not angry over the stuff per say but the way I was treated. Stuff is stuff, no matter it’s worth. I did acquire some of the older photos of my family so my son has some history but other than that, we walked out with nothing. I really didn’t expect anything because I thought we were being honorable and waiting until my dad passes to do this.
I have learned give people things now, don’t hoard, don’t become greedy and live a happy peaceful life. It was definitely a huge chapter in my life that I have now closed for good.
I am able to move on. I know who I am and I know what I want. VERY clear on that now and it's nice to know I was always headed in the right direction. Maybe I just needed a push or to see what I did so I can accept it with full gratitude and peace.
I went home to attend a memorial for my Mom and was astounded at how greed and entitlement reared its ugly head. My sister and brother in law basically cleaned out my Mom’s townhome, leaving my dad with his clothes, the books in a huge mess and a few pictures on the wall. Also, 2 sets of old dishes. Everything else was cleaned out and by cleaned I mean taken to my sister’s house. I was very angry at first, as I know my mom kept some old jewelry, having 2 sets of wedding rings herself, a full canister of JFK half dollars from the 1960-70’s, photographs, a few antique family pieces around the house and the green metal box, which contains all of their personal information like SSN cards, the wills, mortgage, etc. ALL GONE!!!
I was so angry. Who goes in and cleans out the good stuff and leaves my dad in a state of chaos with the rest? Who are these people? Were we not raised in the same household? Same values? Same expectations? And the kicker was I was told that…wait for it…since I have not been around, I don’t get the check marks in the boxes for helping out, so I guess there is some system or record keeping of who did what, which the sum equals one part when the division comes. Have I lost y’all?
I was beyond livid for a few days but I didn’t like how it made me feel. It was just stuff. I decided to let the anger go and let karma and life deal with it. I realized I am not angry over the stuff per say but the way I was treated. Stuff is stuff, no matter it’s worth. I did acquire some of the older photos of my family so my son has some history but other than that, we walked out with nothing. I really didn’t expect anything because I thought we were being honorable and waiting until my dad passes to do this.
I have learned give people things now, don’t hoard, don’t become greedy and live a happy peaceful life. It was definitely a huge chapter in my life that I have now closed for good.
I am able to move on. I know who I am and I know what I want. VERY clear on that now and it's nice to know I was always headed in the right direction. Maybe I just needed a push or to see what I did so I can accept it with full gratitude and peace.
Knowing myself
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